Erectile Dysfunction Therapy:
Modern therapy includes steering the definition of E.D. away from the standard model – and re-frame sexual “dysfunctions” from the old school Masters and Johnson definitions. Say, for instance, that a couple is making out, and one gets excited and comes “prematurely.” Well, that in itself is not a problem. He / she had a climactic sexual response and there’s nothing wrong with that.
It’s not a dysfunction or a failure in any way.
Of course, the partner may raise the question “so what about me?”. In the case of men, even if the male’s penis became soft after his orgasm, or fails to become erect, his hands and tongue are workable for loving his partner, meeting his or her needs. It’s nothing to be ashamed about. One just needs to know what the partner likes and needs, and the basis for knowing is being able to talk openly about sex.
John Gottman says , “Hite’s report makes sex all about open communication – about what both partners want and need sexually at any particular moment. It links good sex to verbal and nonverbal communication. In one fell swoop, this manages to eliminate performance anxiety as well as most of the sexual dysfunctions, by shifting emphasis away from lockstep “stages” where competence and incompetence are rigidly defined.
There are, in fact, a number of possibilities for sex that don’t fall in line with the standard model. We are not expecting one to completely change their attitude about sex just from one therapy session. That’s a process that will take some time. One should always try having an open mind as they think about the ideas that are presented during therapy. Try discussing them with your partner. Do they make sense to you? Try sharing with your partner how some ideas from therapy do or don’t apply to the intimate life you’d like to have with him or her.
Aside from counselling and prescribed therapy techniques, Julie sometimes employs hypnotherapy to help reduce erectile dysfunction anxiety. Julie has a very high success rate in assisting clients with erectile dysfunction and sexual performance anxiety.
Julie also assists her clients with premature ejaculation therapy, similarly with a high success rate.